sometimes when you give something up, you find something better

“sometimes when you give something up, you find something better.”

i love this quote.  it means different things to me every few months.  sometimes some of the worst experiences bring about some of the best gifts, treasures, and experiences.  and if we never had some truly terrible experiences, how could we truly know how sweet we have something when it is so sweet.

i would rather have some occasional pain and discomfort because it lets me know just how good i have something when i do.  for example, if i never had had some toxic friends (selfish, mean, cold, me me me, game players), then i wouldn’t be able to truly know how good and blessed i am and feel when i have some dear souls in my life … who just love me for who i am .. no game playing .. just sweet and kind and wonderful souls.  this life journey is fascinating to me.  we move along gathering countless experiences and people who impact our lives for a multitude of reasons.  we keep getting to find out what matters more to us … what we like … what we are not willing to tolerate … what we are willing to fight for to get … what we will savor once we realize what we have. 

sometimes when we try so hard to hold on to something that isn’t so good for us anymore, we drown it, we sap the life out of it, til there is not much left anyway.  i think we are better off when we figure out it is time to let go of something or someone that is no longer in our best interest to hold on to.  it is painful but necessary sometimes.  if you try so hard to hold on to something that means little to you anymore, i think we will possibly miss out on something better.  if we are focused on one thing, trying desperately to keep it when it had long since ended … i think we will miss out on noticing something else.

reminds me of a conversation i was part of a few days ago … “when one door closes, we sometimes fail to notice the door or the window that has opened instead.”

sometimes the best things happen because we stopped trying so hard and because we finally let go of something that was just draining us and really not making us feel good.  even if something isn’t that great, there is comfort in continuing to do what you are used to.  letting go of something that you feel you need to is scary and hard to do.  but with taking a risk and daring to do what you feel you must do, … sometimes the best blessings come from it.  if we are so focused on the past or present hurt, we might fail to notice the incredible gift that just walked into our lives.  i want to strive to savor the gifts that are in my life right now.  in this, is great joy.

blessings, kathleen xo

ps. so overwhelmed and brain is tired from starting my new job.  i don’t have an opinion yet if i like it or will like it.  it is a new opportunity and challenge.  i still feel very flattered and honored that i was requested by name and offered this position and opportunity.  but it is hard adjusting right now.  i have so much to learn and get used to … but i hope the learning curve will come quick enough.  but i feel tapped for now, so when i get home from work, i just am not into it … the blogging.  i don’t feel like posting a frequent post for now.  i still only feel like posting just when the mood strikes, and it isn’t striking so much right now.  i don’t want this to feel like a chore.  i love how i heard somebody recently say “blog without obligation.”  this writing outlet is just that … an outlet.  whenever it starts to feel like a chore, i don’t want a part of it.  i love reading blogs, but right now there are so many favorites that i am so behind on and i feel drained from the new job and some other personal things, so i might not be around so much.  but i am still around.  and i am not totally stopping blogging.  i enjoy it too much at times to give it up.  but i know i need a bit of a break and some more balance in the life right now.  i’ll still pop around.

ps. a tip also for the gals … always wear a bra when snowmachining!  when jumping and landing, it sure hurts to not have these puppies strapped in!  never making that mistake again!  hahaha.

ps. a good thought … “our lives begin to end the day we become silent about the things that matter.” – by martin luther king jr